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Swingers Contact Etiquette

These are a few pointers on how to get a better response to your profile or ad if you are advertising and how to get a better response to your messages if you are responding to other swingers profiles.


Please respond to all e-mails you receive from respondents, to help you manage your messages, we have created auto responses and seperate inboxes for swingers who match your requirements and those who don't. You can easily create an auto response to messages coming into your non matches telling people that they are not what you are looking for. You can also hit the "No Thanks" auto reply on messages you are not interested in. 

Most swingers replying to you will have spent time plucking up courage to write to you, and time thinking of the right thing to say to get you to notice them, it is only good manners to send them some sort of reply, it does not need to be a long letter, a short note saying something along the lines of "Thank you for your response, but you do not match what I am currently looking for, better luck next time" will at least let the respondent know they have failed. We always check our inbox eagerly after we send every response, hoping that someone has written back to us.

If you are an escort advertising for business please advertise only in the "Paid Services" section, A swinging site is not realy the right place to advertise your services. If you are an escort who also enjoys swinging, then when advertising for play friends please use a different e-mail address from that used for your business. If we are made aware of people being asked for payment when responding to ads outside the escort area we will delete the ad.


Always be polite.

Tell the advertiser what you like about their profile.

Tell them how you think you will meet their requirements.

Make sure that the pictures on your profile show your face - most people like to see the person, rather than a piece of genitalia. If they like the look of you, they will then ask for another picture, a nude one if they want it. (some people do want nude pictures from the start, but they will usually say so in their ad, but be warned, you will find that a high percentage of people asking for nude pictures are photo collectors rather than genuine swingers).

Keep the language clean, match your response to the requirements in the profile. Don't go straight in with a hardcore letter.

Never respond with a one liner like "I want to fuck you", your message is 99.99% guaranteed to go to the trash bin.

If you are turned down by an advertiser, don't keep contacting them - you are not going to make any friends by being a nuisance or abusive. Just move on to the next advertiser.