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Swingers Party Etiquette


When at an on-premise club or swing house party, you are there to have a good time and to share the uninhibited enjoyment associated with those who have discovered a new dimension in their lifestyles. Once you have become familiar with the surroundings and staff members or host/hostess, try to become as at ease as you would be at any other social gathering. Don't hesitate to introduce yourselves to other people. You'll find them eager to welcome you and to help you blend into their circle of sincere camaraderie.


While you are advised to be friendly and outgoing, don't be pushy. Many couples who are new to swinging often have unrealistic expectations and are not prepared for the rejections that may sometimes occur. Freshly showered, perfumed, and neatly dressed people make more contacts. Don't let your personal physical idiosyncrasies stop you from having a good time. No one is perfect, although it is common for new "swingers" to see others as more attractive or better conversationalists than themselves. Don't let your own mind be your worst enemy. Be prepared to handle rejection but don't take it personally.

It is important to remember that PERSONAL CHOICE is the right of every individual and to 'respect that right' is only common courtesy. Learn how to accept "no thank you" graciously. Your approach -- which should be the same as it would be at any social setting -- is a key factor to your acceptance as a desirable partner/friend.

There are several variations to swinging and it is important that you and your mate decide, in advance, those which you like and dislike. Some couples prefer to be alone, while others prefer to be with other couples. Establish your own ground rules, but please decide on them BEFORE you start to swing. For a guide to the different types of swinging, please have a quick read of the website www.whatisswinging.com It will help you have more fun at any event you attend by explaining how to behave in each situation.


Some people will probably break the ice by introducing themselves, along with other couples they know. It's their way of making you feel at home. Feel free to join their conversation and you'll find that most of them will be happy to answer any questions you may have about the swinging lifestyle. Be open and honest. Tell them that you are new to swinging and you'll discover how helpful people can be.


On your first venture into the swinging scene, you may feel somewhat uneasy about seeing your mate with someone else. Some swingers want to share swinging with their mate and feel uneasy having their mate leave to another room with someone. Everyone has their own reasons for their feelings and all feelings are real and should be respected. To avoid embarrassment or disillusionment, discuss your inhibitions with your mate beforehand. Both of you may be more comfortable after talking to other couples and learning how they handled their first swinging session. Remember that getting it right the first time will make both of you more relaxed about attending future swining events.